So let’s talk a little bit about how to attract men and how attraction works for men…how to attract men and how attraction works for men… and a “secret” you can quickly use on how to attract men that is guaranteed to work with a man you’re dating or involved with.

First, let’s start with the basics about how to attract men. There are two types of attraction: Physical and “Intellectual Attraction.”

As a woman, you can attract men by wearing certain clothes, initiating and maintaining eye contact, touching a man softly and flirtatiously, being physically fit or having a certain “look” the man finds intriguing. These are very obvious and simple ways of how to attract men. But these things don’t affect a man at a very deep or lasting level.

On the other hand, what goes beyond Physical Attraction is something I call “Intellectual Attraction” and it goes much deeper, and is the kind of attraction that will make a man literally PINE AWAY for you when he’s not near you. It’s how to attract men in a way that engages them in their mind and heart. It entices him to want a deeper level of involvement and intimacy with you.
If you’re trying to build a more “serious” relationship with a man based on the simple and fleeting Physical Attraction… things aren’t bound to grow too close or connected.

So let me be clear here…

Don’t make the mistake in thinking that how to attract men and how to get a guy is purely through the physical, and that he’s automatically going to want anything more committed or more MEANINGFUL beyond a physical, sexual involvement. It’s just the way men are wired. They are much more able to separate the desire to be physically intimate with a woman with the desire to spend a lot of time with her, or having her become a bigger part of his life.

On the other hand, if a man feels that deep level of INTELLECTUAL attraction to a woman, he will simply WANT to spend time and commit to her. There is nothing and no one that can convince him otherwise. He will not RESIST the relationship the way a man would if he were not “feeling it” for a woman.

So how to attract men in the RIGHT way – the LASTING way? Creating that kind of intellectual attraction involves having the right combination of IRRESISTIBLE traits, such as being adventurous, independent, confident, unpredictable and compassionate, for starters. Women who are “naturals” at creating this sort of attraction are also able to avoid INTERNALIZING all the disappointment and pain from past relationship failure.

I write a free weekly e-newsletter especially for women that explains how to attract men and be more successful in dating and relationships by UNDERSTANDING how men think and behave… all from a man’s perspective.

I’ve also created a ton of resources for you that include exact tips on what to say and do with men.
You can sign up free and check this out now if you go here:

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Best of luck in Life and Love,
Christian Carter

Inside A Guys Mind

Finally… The Answer To What Men Really Want When It Comes To Dating, Love and Relationships

Dear Friend,

Have you ever had a man tell you “I’m not ready for a serious relationship” or “I want my freedom”?

Men say stuff like this all the time to women… but what does it REALLY mean. Do you know what men want when it comes to dating? And what can you do to turn his withdrawal and resistance around, and create more intimacy and connection?

To figure out what men want, here’s the very first thing you need to do-

STOP listening to his words… and start paying attention to what’s really going on at a deeper level inside his heart. Because, as you know, what is shown on the surface is often NOT what is really going on underneath.

Here’s the truth about what men want-

Most men DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT from a woman and a relationship. They just know how they FEEL when they are with a woman, and whether they want more of this feeling or not.

It sounds almost ridiculous it’s so simple, but this is how most men operate when it comes to what men want and WHY they get into relationships and choose one woman over another.

Unfortunately, for the good women who are trying to create a great relationship with a man… and hoping that if they try hard enough to make him happy with them so he’ll stay… this little secret is causing a LOT of pain and frustration, by not knowing what men really want.

The SECRET is that most men DO want a relationship with an amazing woman.

In fact, what men want more than anything is to please the woman they are with. BUT… (and this is an important insight) men want a relationship with a woman who already has about 100 other qualities that a man will never mention and could probably never list or describe even if they were asked to.

Men know what men want when they EXPERIENCE it.

And when a man finally experiences what it’s like to be with the right woman for him, he quickly becomes emotionally involved and not only stops RESISTING a long term relationship… but a man will actually become the one begging his woman for more.

So let me translate for you what men really want…

If a man says to you, “I need to be alone right now”, what he REALLY means is:

“I want a woman who will make me FEEL better when I’m with her than I do in my everyday life as a single man. And I’m not feeling that way with you.”

Or when a man says, “I’m not ready for a relationship”, it doesn’t mean he is somehow unable to have a real relationship.

It usually means that he doesn’t want a relationship with you. The proof of this is how often men tell one woman they’re dating that they’re not “ready”… but then they go on to marry the next woman they meet.

Men are famously unpredictable and seem to make absolutely no sense in this way- until you understand men and what men want.

Each week I let you in and share the secrets of what men want in my free Dating & Relationship Advice For Women e-newsletter.

I make it easy for you to start to understand for yourself what men want, and to translate this into a fun, lasting and loving relationship where you never have to worry about your relationship suddenly ending again.

My e-newsletters are free, and in them I share some of my very best real-world tips on what men want that have already helped literally tens of thousands of women.

So go here and sign up to get my best tips free right here:

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Best of luck in Life and Love,

Christian Carter

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